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Originally posted by White_SoulReaper:
Thanks for all your suggestions... He SMSed me last night and said that it's over between us... And this morning he wanted me to take him back... I made the decision to break it off... I am not prepared to be in a relationship that can lead to marriage for now.
And now he keeps calling and sms-ing me to take him back...I am not going to as it will lead to nowhere.. The thing is, should I meet him personally to say that its over? BTW, he does have violent tendencies when he's angry... Kind of scared to meet him though...
I use my blood to curse you.
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Originally posted by LatecomerX:
Indeed, communication is a crucial factor in a healthy relationship. So did you tell your girlfriend that you would actually like her to send you a little message each day?
I think it's just that TS don't realize the great difference it can make if she sends a simple message to her boyfriend. But if the guy thinks it's something so important, instead of ranting it off, why not just let her know about it?
Possessive behaviour may not be caused by a weak relationship alone, but also one's low self-esteem and lack of trust in the other party. But since neither of us know how's TS' boyfriend like, we can't really assume whether the fault lies in TS or him.
And isn't one outing per week already good enough? Typically, an outing takes up half a day. To a final-year poly student who is also working part-time, I think that's quite a lot of time actually.
Regarding the money and the ego issue, man, if that Parn ever comes in and reads the posts here, she'll flame you and her boyfriend to no end. Scary yea, but no joke about this.
Anyway, to TS, if you don't mind going one step further for your guy, you can try to be considerate to him and organize outings that are wallet-friendly since he doesn't have a source of income yet other than just pocket money. It can be as simple as window shopping, or maybe a picnic at East Coast. You can still have your movie outings occasionally and even offer to pay for your own ticket, but when it comes to having meals, please go for somewhere affordable and allow him to foot the bill. If there's only one thing a guy can pay for for a girl he loves, it will not be her diamonds, her clothes, or her handbags, but her meals.
I'm doing it already. Sending her short SMS each morning and night. Maybe to it, it's just another bored routine junk SMSes that she receive everyday.
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Originally posted by LatecomerX:
Erm. Why is TS supposed to SMS him? Did her boyfriend requested her to do so and she broke her promise? You actually sound like her boyfriend or something.
But I would agree with you that the situation might have been better if TS could spend 5-10 mins each day with her boyfriend, or even a "Good Morning" and "Good Night" message would be good enough. TS, have you tried this yet?
Imagine everyday staring at the phone waiting for her to take the little initiative to SMS you, it turning me crazy. Every time I am the one who take the initiative to SMS her, and she seems to take it for granted. It's like 'one-sided' kind of thing, and it's terrible.
I believe in a relationship, both parties must contribute. If I am the only one who initiate the SMS, then what's the use of communication. What's more, I personally feel that Communication plays an important role in fostering good & healthy relationship.
Seems like TS is the one who like to Take, and didn't Give much. Even though you seems busy everyday, but couldn't you spare some time to SMS? I don't really know what you're really busy about. Are you really spending all time studying? Can't you squeeze some out to SMS?
Yes, I understand that you may be really busy.. but if you're so busy, then perhaps you can tell your boyfriend that you're busy and you're only able to give him an SMS when you're having your break time.
And regarding about the possessive part, I strongly believe it's because he's afraid to lose you. Afraid to lose, that's why he's holding on tighter. Can't you see this point?
When I read your post, I can tell that you're not very committ to this relationship. Really. Once a week, you think it's enough? Have you asked your boyfriend whether he feels it's enough or not.
Ok, about that part on he being bringing down your dream, I am on your side. Perhaps it's just his temper.
And about the dressing sense, perhaps you can go shopping with him and buy some new clothings.
About paying the money.. It's EGO you know? He wants some ego.
I didn't know such devoted guy still exist in this world.
I pity your boyfriend, and I pity myself.
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OF COURSE IT'S YOUR FAULT!
NO MATTER HOW BUSY YOU ARE, YOU SHOULD TRY STILL CONTACT HIM!!!!!
I GUESS YOU ARE THE ONE WHO DON'T KNOW THE FEELING OF WAITING AND WAITING FOR YOU SMSes.
I KNOW YOU'RE BUSY, BUT WHY CAN'T YOU SPEND SOME TIME AND SMS HIM? DO YOU KNOW HOW PAIN IS IT TO WAIT FOR YOUR SMS?
PLEASE TRY TO STAND IN YOUR BOYFRIEND'S SHOE!
IF THE GUY YOU LOVE DON'T CONTACT YOU FOR QUITE A LONG TIME, WILL YOU FEEL PAIN? THE FEELING IS WORST THAN LIVING!
AND IT'S YOUR HOT & COLD ACTION THAT LEADS TO HIS INSECURTIY.
APOLOGIES TO HIM NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

GOD DAMN IT.
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Originally posted by kiseki:
why are you so afraid?It's like you like her but afraid of her.
And if she can give you 10 over missed calls it means you mean something to her.
So what's wrong here? =\
Just afraid that one day she might say this into my face..
"Stop it, give me a break. I won't like you, never ever".
Perhaps she worried about me....as a friend.Edited by Darkness_hacker99 03 Aug `08, 4:59AM
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