An interesting old article about the japanese society. While doing a sociology elective project i chanced upon this. This actually meant to be an informative topic (wanted to put in ChitChat) but i rekoned FireIce would shift it in Bar anyway because of the catchy topic haha... And also, some unique SGforumers would 'siang wai wai'.

My question to all. Would Singapore one day become like this? We are always chasing material aspects of life and neglect our other half.

I hope someone never post this before or it is forgotten. hahaha...

http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2005/apr/04/japan.justinmccurry

Lustless matches put country on brink of demographic disaster

• Justin McCurry in Tokyo
• The Guardian,
• Monday April 4 2005

Like many Japanese women, Junko waited until her early 30s to get married. When she and her fiance, an employee of a well-known firm, decided to tie the knot, she set her sights on making a home, putting away some money and starting a family.

Fifteen years later, Junko and her husband are childless. It is not that they cannot have children; it is just that they have never had sex.

The sexless marriage is one of several reasons why experts fear Japan is on the verge of a demographic disaster.

In 2003 Japan's birthrate hit a record low of 1.29 - the average number of times a woman gives birth during her lifetime - one of the lowest rates in the world, according to the cabinet office. The population will peak next year at about 128 million, then decline to just over 100 million by 2050.

The 200 women a year who seek help at a clinic in the Tokyo suburbs have not had sex with their husbands in up to 20 years, and some never, according to Kim Myong-gan, who runs the clinic.

"The women who come to see me love their husbands and aren't looking for a divorce," he told the Guardian. "The problem is that their husbands lose interest in sex or don't want sex from the start. Many men think of their wives as substitute mothers, not as women with emotional and sexual needs."

Mr Kim's short-term solution is unconventional. After an initial 20,000 yen (£100) counselling session, he produces photographs of 45 men, mostly professionals in their 40s, with whom the women are invited to go on dates and then, in almost all cases, arrange regular assignations in hotel rooms.

Mr Kim dismissed charges that his service was little more than a male prostitution ring. "The men volunteer and pay half the hotel and restaurant bills, so legally there is absolutely nothing wrong with it," he said.

He had rescued hundreds of women from despair, he said, but his "sex volunteers" would do nothing to cure the malaise that afflicts the institution of marriage in Japan.

The number of married couples is in rapid decline. In 2000 almost 70% of men and 54% of women between 25 and 29 were unmarried. That bodes ill for the birthrate, as conservative Japanese society frowns upon having children outside marriage.

A survey of 600 women found that 26% had not had sex with their husbands in the past year.

"We are sort of room-mates rather than a married couple," one 31-year-old man, who had not had sex with his wife for two years, told the Asahi Shimbun newspaper.

The government has introduced several measures to lift the birthrate. Fathers will be encouraged to take more than the 47% of annual paid leave they currently use, and their employers will be told to provide more opportunities for them to stay at home with their children.

Local authorities, meanwhile, are devising novel ways to increase fertility. In the town of Yamatsuri women will receive 1m yen if they have a third child, and in Ishikawa prefecture families with three children will get discounts at shops and restaurants.

The absence of children in so many homes is having an impact. Fun parks are closing and there are signs that the "exam hell" teenagers go through to secure places at top schools and universities is less of an ordeal because the competition is less fierce.

The divorce rate has nearly doubled in the past 10 years, with more women blaming their sexually inactive, as opposed to sexually errant, husbands for break-ups.

"The men love their companies; they live for work," Mr Kim said. "Men don't even think it is a problem if they don't have sex with their wives. They have pornography and the sex industry to take care of their needs, but their wives have nowhere to go. They just suffer in silence."

huh?? where can i be a volunteer??? serious... i also wan to try try.....

HAHAHAHAHHAHAH

jap men got married but dun want sex ? 

are the wives sick of pornography?

it is a trade off though its quite extreme. japanese r quite well known for their style of mgt and doing biz but then there is a cost to it

japan boleh..

Nothing wrong at all. Everyone needs sex. It will come to Singapore someday. Or should i say its already present in Singapore? Sure got one wife where husband dont want to have sex so the wife go and look for customers.

got sex volunteer video here!

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one of my female fren loh.. she n her hubby almost 2 yrs no sex liao..

whenever i meet up with her, i will ask her whether her hubby found back his mojo oreadi n of cos i will offer to clear the cobwebs for her..

 

another one of my guy fren lost interest in his wife soon after she gave birth.. they had been sleeping in seperate rooms for almost 3 yrs.. recently, i found out he is having an affair with one of my close gal fren who is oso married..

wow .. i wonder why japanese porns are so creative

Originally posted by monoslayer:

one of my female fren loh.. she n her hubby almost 2 yrs no sex liao..

whenever i meet up with her, i will ask her whether her hubby found back his mojo oreadi n of cos i will offer to clear the cobwebs for her..

 

another one of my guy fren lost interest in his wife soon after she gave birth.. they had been sleeping in seperate rooms for almost 3 yrs.. recently, i found out he is having an affair with one of my close gal fren who is oso married..

I think your guy fren's wife's figure go out of shape and he lost interest haha...

Ya...ladies and guys included should tone up and watch your weight. Fat means a lot less positions to explore lol....

maybe you heard it wrong it is bijin wife and not virgin wife.

Originally posted by monoslayer:

one of my female fren loh.. she n her hubby almost 2 yrs no sex liao..

whenever i meet up with her, i will ask her whether her hubby found back his mojo oreadi n of cos i will offer to clear the cobwebs for her..

 

another one of my guy fren lost interest in his wife soon after she gave birth.. they had been sleeping in seperate rooms for almost 3 yrs.. recently, i found out he is having an affair with one of my close gal fren who is oso married..

then husband got go ride on sardine packed train to raba raba school girls ar not?

Got!  a few here!

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Bar is alway interesting!

haha kinda funny

It's a basic need. I don't see anything wrong with that.

i thought japan's birth rates should be rather high? From all the sex tapes they are producing, 1.29 children per woman is kinda low.

Japanese women rather have a sensual massage with a therapist than producing babies...just watch a clip, it's not AV I think a hidden camera ...it reality
TV..with the sex culture they have...they should be making more babies than china

Kind of like either your japanese wife  have a high sex drive who flirts around or none at all.There's no middle ground ?

Actually japanese people believes in working more than sex and other stuffs. You see most of their entertainment stuffs there are for tourists. All they care abt is working, being a good boss, a good employee, providing good services and etc. They are hardworking and willing to adapt and change.

Japan having a good porn industry doesnt mean japanese have high sex drive, its simply a business. Porn business makes lots of money yearly, and since they believe everything must be the best, porn is included also. If they want to do porn business, they must be the best, they must have the best porn that make the most ppl want to masturbate, if more ppl masturbate to their porn, means they have succeeded in achieveing the qualities they wanted bcos porn is their product, and they are the makers.

Thats why AV actress all their acting are damn real and arousing, they have all kinds of theme to cater to all kinds of fetish. Compared to angmo, all u see is one big d1ck, one s1ut kena bang by that d1ck and "oh yes oh yes oh yes!" and cum and no more liao.

 

I think I want to migrate to japan. I will be hardworking not only at work but at home too.

Originally posted by Stucktoes:

Actually japanese people believes in working more than sex and other stuffs. You see most of their entertainment stuffs there are for tourists. All they care abt is working, being a good boss, a good employee, providing good services and etc. They are hardworking and willing to adapt and change.

Japan having a good porn industry doesnt mean japanese have high sex drive, its simply a business. Porn business makes lots of money yearly, and since they believe everything must be the best, porn is included also. If they want to do porn business, they must be the best, they must have the best porn that make the most ppl want to masturbate, if more ppl masturbate to their porn, means they have succeeded in achieveing the qualities they wanted bcos porn is their product, and they are the makers.

Thats why AV actress all their acting are damn real and arousing, they have all kinds of theme to cater to all kinds of fetish. Compared to angmo, all u see is one big d1ck, one s1ut kena bang by that d1ck and "oh yes oh yes oh yes!" and cum and no more liao.

 

I think I want to migrate to japan. I will be hardworking not only at work but at home too.

If you can score an ex-AV actress as your wife it'll be great.

i guess its a case of "the grass is always greener across the fence".......

get married but neglect wife & seek release elsewhere...so what do u expect from a lonely housewife....she needs her release too......

heard that in some close-knit communities, families do share and exchange spouses to create some kinda of excitement & eradicate boredom......but in our modern day materialistic society......our pride and "face" gets in the way.......

Originally posted by ronaldog:

Got!  a few here!

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Bar is alway interesting!

wah song song dao jurong

U think all j lonely wives look like noriko fujiwara neh: